We are what we love: Attention, Attraction, and Attrition

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We are what we love: Attention, Attraction and Attrition

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Attention

It is impossible, then, to attend deeply to something and not be changed.”-Jeffrey Bilbro, Reading the Times

Attraction

It is only the first week of 2024 but for many, the year’s focus is already taking shape. For some of us, our attention is on work-related goals, while for others we may be concentrating on things of a more personal nature. What is guaranteed, though, is that something is getting our attention.

Sometime during the pandemic, I listened to an audiobook entitled, You Are What You Love: The Spiritual Power of Habit by James Smith. This is what inspired the title for today’s blog. Smith’s book was referred to in another book that I am re-reading called Reading the Times by Jeff Bilbro, which I cited above. One common theme in both books is that we are shaped by the things we focus on.

Bilbro makes a compelling case both for managing technology and being selective in how we consume the daily news. I was particularly moved by the following excerpt: “What we attend to reveals and shapes our loves, so if our attention is fixed on the thin stratum of the daily news, then we are guilty of a kind of idolatry, of misdirecting our love and even worship.”

The idea is not to disconnect completely from what is going on around us, but to be conscious of our mental and emotional appetites. When we focus intently on something, whatever it may be, whether good or bad, it changes us. That includes the daily news, celebrity gossip and social media content. We must strike the right balance. 

Last week, I encouraged us to renew our minds and to consider changing the way we think. The themes are connected. What we think about regularly will affect our choices, our behaviour and our character. If 2024 is going to be a great year for us, we must be conscious of the things that we are attracted to. It’s often obvious to others what consumes us. We are the ones with the blind spots. Remember, we are what we love.

Attrition

Attrition of values-centred living is real. Be conscious of what influences you.

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This Post Has 8 Comments

  1. Winsbert Almando Quow

    Great opening thoughts for 2024, reminding me to guard what I focus on as it will change me for good or bad (Matthew 6:21). In this demanding, fast-paced, materialistic world, it is so easy to unconsciously drift toward loving the things that have no eternal value.

    1. J. Tyrone Marcus

      Thanks for sharing your helpful thoughts, Almando. Happy New Year.

  2. Michelle Marcus

    Attend deeply to the right thing so as to be transformed to that thing is my response. Thank you. I have seen already how much more I have to become transformed to love and become consumed with what is right. My mental and emotional appetites, even in the now began New Year need some retuning revising.

  3. Christine Duncan

    Thank you for such a profound and important message/reminder. I personally started detoxing from excessive amount of negativity whether that be social media, news, movies, daily interactions etc. some time ago. It’s a challenge sometimes to not get roped back in but it not impossible to stay the path. Again, thanks for this reminder.

  4. Catherine Peters

    This was sooo timely and convicting!! I find myself lately spending a little too much time for my own good viewing/listening to certain things on Youtube (including celebrity gossip), justifying it by claiming to be seeking out what’s going on in the entertainment industry, since a very close family member has shown some interest in it as a possible career option. Yes…I want to be in a position to warn her of the dark side of the industry and so, hopefully, dissuade her. I could also blame it on algorithms, but I have the ability and freedom to choose what I feed my mind and what I allow to influence me. Does it add value to my life? No? Scrolling right along…… Thanks for this “wake up call” Tyrone!!

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